Pool Party West Hollywood
LifestylePersonal

Pool Party Positivity: Removing Stigma from Status

My friend Larry invited me to a pool party, and naturally I was dying to go. His invite was followed by a call from Bruce, his fiancé (I guess husband now) to tell me a little bit more about the event I had just agreed to go to later that …

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Depressed Guy I Don't Know My Status
Personal

I Don’t Know My Status

Being free, independent, and newly single, I was not looking for anything too serious. Hell, right after the breakup I wasn’t even looking for sex. The thought of being with another guy after three years and two serious, long term boyfriends was strange to me. I was timid and nervous …

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Glee Max
Lifestyle

The Decay of “Masc v. Fem”

With the rudimentary structure of Grindr a few years ago, users were only offered one picture with limited text. Guys then had to get to the point and ask for exactly what they wanted. “No fems.” “Masc only.” “Chill bro looking for same.” The reason most of us got into …

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Mike Gerle Leather and Politics
PoliticsTalk Show

Mikel Gerle on Politics, Leather, and LA Band of Brothers

Mikel Gerle talks about the balance between working in politics and the leather community as well as his campaign for West Hollywood City Council for March of 2015. He delves into the world of the International Mr. Leather contest as well as the formation of the LA Band of Brothers. …

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Utah Gay Marriage Rally
LifestylePolitics

Gay Marriage: What Now?

As I was sitting outside with my friend Aaron (who is also gay), my phone buzzed in my pocket. Slightly tiffed that I had to interrupt my tanning session to respond to a text, I pulled it out of the pocket of my shorts to see who had messaged me. …

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Gay Guilt - The Normal Heart
Entertainment

Gay Guilt and “The Normal Heart”

Ever since coming out, gay men from the older generation have been trying to teach me about the travesty of the AIDS epidemic. “You don’t know how good you have it.” “You don’t know what it was like.” “You don’t appreciate how much we fought for you.” This kind of …

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Secret Talking in Gay Code
Personal

Gay or Straight? The Difficulties of talking in Code

I’m at a party at another school and I meet this guy. His name is Tim. “Why are you wearing a cowboy hat?” I ask. “Well, I’m from Texas and my friends didn’t think I seemed Texan enough. So I signed a contract saying I’d wear it every time I …

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STD poster Check yourself
Lifestyle

Slut-shaming an STD Poster

The office where I work just recently got new STD testing posters. At first I thought the posters were a clever way to get gay men to read the poster and get tested. They addressed all target markets including models of multiple races and they even used punny humor if …

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Personal

TBT: The Football Game

“I’m lost. I have no idea where I am!” “What do you mean you’re lost??” I’ve been on the phone talking to my drunk boyfriend James for the past thirty minutes trying to figure out where he is. It’s the first football game of the season and he got too …

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Alex van der Hoek
Lifestyle

Gay Men are Dangerous

“Watch your drinks. Don’t let anyone make you anything.” “Get ready to have orgies everyday.” “You’re going to come back covered in STDs.” This is what they told me before I left for my trip to the BVI, which I’m sure you’re tired of hearing about. My friends and family …

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